Talking to Your Partner
Talking to your partner about a loss of sex drive can be extremely difficult, even for partners that have excellent communication skills. The thing that most partners are afraid of hearing is that the reason there has been a loss in sex drive is because they aren’t seen as attractive any longer, so many people avoid the topic all together. Here are a few can’t miss tips for talking to your partner about sex drive problems.. Remember, life is too short to go without love and intimacy for too long.
Be Gentle
The first angle that you should take with loss of libido is to be gentle, caring and considerate. Chances are, your partner has noticed a decrease in their own sex drive and is just as concerned, if not more concerned, about it than you are. The last thing you want to do is mention it in a crass way or in a way that belittles what your partner is going through. Try to bring it up during a time when the both of you are relaxed and feeling positive. If you’ve had a fight recently or if the two of you seem to be in a bad mood, wait until later to talk about it, or you could make matters much worse.
Put Her Feelings First
Most men are anxious to talk about how this drop off in sex drive has made them feel, and while the feelings of both partners are extremely important, it is important that you put the person who is experiencing this drop off in sex drive first. The root of the problem lies with that person and you have to open up the avenues of communication with that person so the two of you can talk.
Be Honest
You always want to approach this topic with great care and with great respect, but you don’t want to lie, either. If your partner asks you how you have been taking this whole situation, it is important that you are honest, but be gentle about it. If you’ve found it devastating and you are questioning the very foundation of your relationship, say so, but don’t lay blame. Use this opportunity to learn about female libido and what the two of you can do together to work though these issues and end up with a stronger relationship on the other side. Remember, this is an issue that both of you need to work though, not just the person going through the downturn in sex drive.